9 POWER
Love, work and knowledge are the wellsprings of our
life; they should also govern it.
Wilhelm Reich
Reading what we have said about the client-therapist
relationship, many people will be concerned about issues
of power. Is it acceptable for therapists to work in a
way which deliberately lets them become such charged
figures for their clients? Isn't there a tremendous
potential in this situation for exploitation? Isn't the
relationship structured so as inevitably to disempower
the client, stripping away their autonomy and identity
rather than strengthening them?
These are serious questions, and ones which make quite a
few people steer clear of therapy, Reichian or otherwise,
however much they may in some ways be drawn to it. The
ultimate fear is similar to that felt about the Moonies
or the Rajneesh movement - the Svengali-like, mesmeric
figure who controls our actions and perceptions.
This is a highly rational fear in a society where a great
deal of time and money is devoted to controlling people's
actions and perceptions. Just as our culture is
manipulative in the public sphere, through advertising
and propaganda, so in the private sphere people assert
coercive power aver each others' experience. This is
especially brutal between parents and children where the
child's reality can be forcibly invalidated and invaded,
both physically and mentally. We don't even have to look
at the sickening facts of extreme abuse, now revealed as
far more common than most people realised (and which we
are increasingly meeting in our work); incest and torture
are the logical extension of the powerless situation in
which most children find themselves in our culture.
The intense vulnerability which therapy exposes will
often bring up these sorts of childhood feelings and
memories. It is all too easy for the therapist to push
away her own distress by pushing around the client,
instructing her in subtle or not-so-subtle ways what to
think and feel and remember. therapists can easily become
addicted to the power thrust upon them by so many
clients, who have themselves been brought up to 'need' an
authority to obey: therapists can actually start believing
in the positive transference they receive. Acting in this
way is equally abusive, however nice it feels.
There are some therapists, and some therapies, which tend
to exploit their clients, emotionally, financially, or by
imposing a social 'norm' upon the client's experience.
Suspicions of exploitation, like any other conflicts of
perception between the two people involved, need to be
carefully and thoroughly examined, without any
built-in assumption that the therapist is more likely to
be 'right' than the client.
It is the therapist's willingness to test out her own
attitudes and feelings, and on occasion to own up to
mistakes and confusions, which can above all make therapy
a safe and non-abusive structure. As we have tried to
show in the last chapter, by working as therapists we are
not setting ourselves up as superior beings. People often
describe the therapy relationship as 'unequal'. We don't
think this is right, we see it more as 'asymmetrical' -
the roles of the two people are not the same, and their
involvement is of different kinds. But the power
of the participants can and must balance.
This goal is on its own a radical and subversive one in a
society which is constructed out of inequalities of
power. Our work is very much concerned with the
difference between 'power-over' and 'power-for'; with
helping the client to feel this difference in her own
marrow. Power-over is the juice upon which patriarchal
culture runs - the assumption that if I am strong,
someone else must be weak, and vice versa. This is part
of the myth of scarcity, which says that there isn't
enough of anything, so we must all fight for our share of
the inadequate cake.
Scarcity is only a truth about the things our culture has
created to be scarce: luxuries, or money itself. It isn't
even a truth that food is scarce, only that it is
unevenly distributed; and it isn't remotely true of
breath, energy, love or power - in the sense of
power-for-ourselves, strength and creativity, 'the force
that through the green fuse drives the flower' as Dylan
Thomas puts it.
There is plenty of power for everyone!
But patriarchal society cannot allow this reality to be
felt, otherwise no one would let their power apparently
be taken away, no one would bow down to their 'betters',
or work in a boring and useless job, or obey silly rules,
or let other people control all the resources and
activities of society. Social oppression depends
ultimately on consent: we let it happen.
Why do we consent to being disempowered in this way?
Reich was one of the first people to point out the vital
role of family life in transmitting patriarchal ideas and
ways of being. We are made controllable by our armouring,
which walls off so much of our energy, clarity, courage
and initiative. While many people would see this as
'healthy discipline', we see it as an education in
disempowerment. And this same armouring, by blocking
our urge for loving contact so that it turns stagnant and
vicious, sets up the conditions for people to be
attracted by the violence, hatred and scapegoating of
fascism and other extreme ideologies. 
We can draw real parallels between different political
ideologies and the different layers of the armoured
personality. The liberal/democratic consensus, denying
the reality of oppression and exploitation. corresponds
to the outer layer of false 'niceness' and
'civilisation'. Extremist ideologies of the right and
left, with all their talk of 'smashing', 'liquidating',
'seizing' and 'fighting', correspond to the middle layer
- the welter of hateful and distorted feelings created
through the frustration of our need for love and
pleasure. Like all symptoms they have a double nature,
expressing both the sadistic rage of a suppressed
individual and the compulsive obedience instilled by the
authoritarian parenting which suppresses them.
And the healthy core? It corresponds to a way of life
which exists so far only in our dreams, one which is not
'political' in the usual sense, because all power remains
with the individual and the community, where people
control their own lives and work, without needing
neurotically to give that control away to 'specialists'.
This is the social version of natural self-regulation
within the individual.
Of course, it is perfectly possible to 'struggle' and
'fight' for this sort of society by means which are
neurotic and distorted! Over and over again, in the
public sphere, wonderful visions of freedom and healing
have resulted in totalitarian or chaotic societies. It
seems pretty clear that it is not possible for armoured
characters like ourselves to create a healthy society:
either we end up giving our power away to another bunch
of brutal authorities, or else we are unable to focus
enough creative energy to get anything done at all!
So is there any alternative to doomed attempts at pulling
ourselves up by our own bootstraps? Reichian therapy
seeks to intervene at the other end of the process of
political oppression: to expose the precise distortions
created in our individual energies, and to dissolve them
so that energy can move freely again.
Reichian therapy makes people less easy
to control! They become at least partially immune to
manipulation through guilt, shame, anxiety and greed,
because these secondary emotions have dissolved back into
their primary sources: love, anger, grief, fear and joy.
Energy is on the move, and will no longer fit into
constricting and damaging containers: bad relationships,
bad jobs, bad belief systems. Without any ideology being
imposed from outside, the natural forces of the human
organism create change in the political situation of the
individual; a process of re-empowerment
However creative, this falling-away of a familiar context
can be very painful for an individual. Established
support systems and friendships often become
unsatisfying, no longer able to meet the need for new and
different sorts of emotional feeding, Increasingly, we
are seeing the need for support networks, ways in which
people can validate and aid this sort of change in each
other.
But it would take a very long time to change the world
through individual or group therapy. We must clearly
recognise that therapy becomes a real need, or even a
real option, only when basic needs for food,
housing, security and so on have been met. In this sense,
therapy does tend to be a middle class, privileged
activity (though by no means ail our clients fall into
this group). Thus it is a good thing that, however
messianic we become at times, this work is only one
tributary of a much greater streaming of change and
rebirth. What we see happening over and again is that
people move from therapy with us into other
areas of transformative activity; above all, they begin
to change their own lives into an environment where they,
and everyone around them, can flower.
Therapy also has a valuable input to make into other
forms of working for change. It helps people to examine
their motives in taking on such tasks; helps
them let go of the compulsiveness about 'helping', the
workaholism, the hidden authoritarianism or the oral
demandingness ('give us our rights!') which can blight so
much radical work. Therapy insists that we can and must enjoy
ourselves; that pleasure and fun are just as much part of
changing the world.
It can also suggest new structures and procedures for
meetings, co-operatives and so on, based on recognising
and giving space to each person involved; paying
attention to atmospheres and unspoken agendas rather than
sweeping them under the carpet; creating opportunities
for personal, face-to-face contact: giving control of
work to the people who actually carry it out. Such
structures both grow out of and help to nurture natural
self-regulation and being-in-touch.
Reichian therapy has a particular natural affinity for
two issues of power: sexism and ecology. Reich was,
again, one of the first people to raise issues that now
come under the banner of 'ecology'; he perceived the
spreading pollution and damage to nature in the early
1950s and linked it directly with the blocking of natural
impulses in human beings - only armoured and distressed
individuals would permit their environment to be
poisoned. Therapy tends to liberate feelings of
identification with the natural world, the sense of
sacredness which most of us lose in childhood, and which
makes it impossible to tolerate the rape and torture of
the earth.
That image of rape brings us to the issue of sexism: the
oppression of natural and spontaneous feeling under
patriarchy is tied up in many ways with gender and sex.
As we have already said, the wholeness of our experience
is split in two by the imposition of 'masculine' and
'feminine' categories of behaviour, creating a permanent
wound in both genders, but particularly a structural
oppression and devaluation of the female gender. It is no
coincidence that nature itself is associated with the
female: most of us have deep-ingrained connections
between 'female', 'natural', 'animal', 'dirty', 'sexual'
and 'wrong'. These ideas are not remotely natural
themselves, but are the product of a society which
glorifies an equally unnatural constellation of 'male',
'technological', 'human', 'clean', 'intellectual' and
'right'.
Sexism is always a powerful presence in therapy because,
perhaps more than any other form of social control and
oppression, it affects our bodily experience. As
we have already hinted, many forms of 'symptom' or
'illness' can be understood as a rebellion
against imposed realities - against abuse of one sort or
another. As therapists we want to side not with the
parental role, either the 'good' or the 'bad' parent, but
with the confused and damaged child itself, and with its
never-ending struggle for loving contact This can often
mean retranslating the 'problem' with which the client
arrives into the beginning of a 'solution'; this is
especially true when the 'problem' is about someone's
inability to conform to sexist criteria of normality.
The therapy session is a very unusual sort of space, very
different in many ways from 'ordinary life'. One big
difference is that the focus of both people's attention
is on the experience of one of them - the client. In one
sense this makes the client powerful, central. In another
way, it means that the therapist is not exposing her own
pain and vulnerability, so she can appear always
clear and strong. We regularly draw attention to this as
we are giving therapy, and make it apparent - without
using the client's time for our own needs - that we too
feel weak, confused, armoured, stuck in childhood
patterns, and so on.
During the session, we are not being these
things. We have made a contract to focus on the client,
knowing that we are able in most situations to keep a
clear perspective on our own material when it surfaces.
But we couldn't do this if we weren't getting support
ourselves at other times, opportunities to panic, fall
apart, act irrationally, be totally selfish. We have our
own moments, many moments, of vulnerability and unclarity
in our lives.
We don't try to fool any client about this; in a sense we
want to draw their attention to it as part of the human
context of our interaction. We will, however, avoid any
tendency to turn the spotlight on us during the session,
just as with any other avoidance of the client's own
feelings and experiences, except when it becomes
necessary for both people to spend time sorting out the
origins of our own responses to the client
What happens in therapy, although different, cannot be
separated off from the rest of life; which is basically a
good thing, since otherwise it could hardly affect the
rest of life. One aspect of this is that we are almost
invariably taking money from clients for the work we do.
This is necessary in order for us to live; and it also
creates innumerable opportunities for bad power
relationships.
For some clients, the financial relationship increases
their sense of the therapist's powerfulness. Not only are
we seeing into their souls, we're also taking their cash!
There is a sense, though, in which by paying us the
client is asserting her control: her choice, in the
situation - she is acting as our .employer'. This too can
be turned into a messy game. We have learnt from bitter
experience not to take at face value the client who says
(often in utter good faith) 'That was such a good
session, let me pay you extra.' What happens a few weeks
later when the developing relationship brings up dissatisfaction
with a session?
In some ways it might be simpler and cleaner if money did
not have to change hands. We don't really subscribe to
the convenient notion that 'clients wouldn't value the
work if they didn't have to pay for it'. At the same
time, though, we live in a world where money is a vital
element of exchange and survival, and therapy is to do
with recognising reality. Also, there are certainly
advantages in having a therapeutic relationship in which
the state has no role of subsidy - and therefore of
control. We have not yet resolved the tension between our
need for a reasonable standard of living and our desire
to work with people irrespective of their level of
income. Group therapy provides a very partial solution,
and we certainly see it as necessary to at least try to
offer some cheap sessions.
The issue of money is just one of the many ways in which
our practice of Reichian therapy is constantly struggling
with contradictions around issues of power. Although we
are looking for contact with our clients, and not aiming
to withhold ourselves, we still set up very definite
boundaries - of time, of disclosure - and some people
find these very unsatisfactory. Although we see our work
as having a 'public', political dimension, we are still
working in 'private' and professional structures; still
involved much of the time with the need to generate
income, to attract punters!
These contradictions are not going to disappear; like so
many other problems in life, we are going to have to live
with them. It feels important to admit that they are
there, yet in each situation still to work concretely to
move away from 'power-over' and towards 'power-for'.
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